Sarah is one of the loveliest people you could ever meet. She`s
smart, well informed and a loyal friend. Anyone who knows her
would tell you that.
Why is it then that Sarah worries about meeting new people,
avoids social gatherings and spends much too much time staying
in watching TV?
The answer is simple. She worries that people will find her
uninteresting and she is afraid she`ll run out of things to
say.
Bad Memories Haunt Her
You see, once or twice in the past Sarah has suffered through
moments of embarrassment when she was lost for words and her
mind went completely blank. She just stood there feeling
awkward with everyone staring at her.
Having to go through this again is her worst nightmare and so
she makes a point of avoiding meeting people. Even thinking
about it makes her nervous and a little scared.
Here is what I said to Sarah when she requested my advice:
You`re not alone. Everyone has moments of doubt and
worries about meeting people. That`s perfectly normal.
And its good that you are facing this issue and ready to
make a change. To get started take a moment to think
about how you want it to be when you meet people.
Future Perfect
Imagine for a moment what your life would be like if you
could drop this tendency to hold yourself back. Your
typical day would be so different. Think of the fun you
would have joking with people.
Imagine all the new people you´d get to know and think
about how good you would feel being an active participant
rather than hiding on the periphery of the group.
Right now, it is as if an imaginary barrier is keeping you
away from other people. And yes, it is imaginary, it is not
real except in your mind.
What Popular People Do
The people who connect with others, those who are all
smiles and radiating warm confidence simply look at the
world differently. The world is not different - it merely
looks different to them. You can join them when you drop
the self imposed restrictions that are holding you back.
Face your fears and drop them one by one. You do this by
changing how you think - not by changing the world. As soon
as you feel differently about dealing with people others
will notice the change in you and start treating you
differently.
The Law Of Reflection
That´s the funny thing about life - to change the world
change yourself and the people in your world will follow
your lead. They respond to you by reflecting back how you
feel about yourself.
If you feel good about yourself, if you feel confident and
at ease others assume you to be confident and at ease. They
then respect you more. And all because you decided to
respect yourself.
But, when you are fearful you give off different vibes and
because you are avoiding people they tend to avoid you.
How To Kill Conversation Fear
And this is why you must identify and let go of your
conversation fear - the fear that stops you from enjoying
the company of others.
Drop the fear and notice how people are much more
interested in getting to know you better. Why? Because you
are letting your true personality shine.
What can you do right now to beat conversation fear?
Review the Conversation Fear report that comes with my
course.
http://www.howtotalkwithconfidence.com/
If you ever know what to say and still cannot speak up it
is because fear has gotten the better of you. This fear
will not go away until you know how to eliminate it. I show
you three ways in that report.
And make sure you are up to date on the 15 ways to start
and keep a conversation going. I showed you how to do this
in the How to Start a Great Conversation with Anyone report
that you also get with my course.
Have a great day,
Peter Murphy
http://www.howtotalkwithconfidence.com/
smart, well informed and a loyal friend. Anyone who knows her
would tell you that.
Why is it then that Sarah worries about meeting new people,
avoids social gatherings and spends much too much time staying
in watching TV?
The answer is simple. She worries that people will find her
uninteresting and she is afraid she`ll run out of things to
say.
Bad Memories Haunt Her
You see, once or twice in the past Sarah has suffered through
moments of embarrassment when she was lost for words and her
mind went completely blank. She just stood there feeling
awkward with everyone staring at her.
Having to go through this again is her worst nightmare and so
she makes a point of avoiding meeting people. Even thinking
about it makes her nervous and a little scared.
Here is what I said to Sarah when she requested my advice:
You`re not alone. Everyone has moments of doubt and
worries about meeting people. That`s perfectly normal.
And its good that you are facing this issue and ready to
make a change. To get started take a moment to think
about how you want it to be when you meet people.
Future Perfect
Imagine for a moment what your life would be like if you
could drop this tendency to hold yourself back. Your
typical day would be so different. Think of the fun you
would have joking with people.
Imagine all the new people you´d get to know and think
about how good you would feel being an active participant
rather than hiding on the periphery of the group.
Right now, it is as if an imaginary barrier is keeping you
away from other people. And yes, it is imaginary, it is not
real except in your mind.
What Popular People Do
The people who connect with others, those who are all
smiles and radiating warm confidence simply look at the
world differently. The world is not different - it merely
looks different to them. You can join them when you drop
the self imposed restrictions that are holding you back.
Face your fears and drop them one by one. You do this by
changing how you think - not by changing the world. As soon
as you feel differently about dealing with people others
will notice the change in you and start treating you
differently.
The Law Of Reflection
That´s the funny thing about life - to change the world
change yourself and the people in your world will follow
your lead. They respond to you by reflecting back how you
feel about yourself.
If you feel good about yourself, if you feel confident and
at ease others assume you to be confident and at ease. They
then respect you more. And all because you decided to
respect yourself.
But, when you are fearful you give off different vibes and
because you are avoiding people they tend to avoid you.
How To Kill Conversation Fear
And this is why you must identify and let go of your
conversation fear - the fear that stops you from enjoying
the company of others.
Drop the fear and notice how people are much more
interested in getting to know you better. Why? Because you
are letting your true personality shine.
What can you do right now to beat conversation fear?
Review the Conversation Fear report that comes with my
course.
http://www.howtotalkwithconfidence.com/
If you ever know what to say and still cannot speak up it
is because fear has gotten the better of you. This fear
will not go away until you know how to eliminate it. I show
you three ways in that report.
And make sure you are up to date on the 15 ways to start
and keep a conversation going. I showed you how to do this
in the How to Start a Great Conversation with Anyone report
that you also get with my course.
Have a great day,
Peter Murphy
http://www.howtotalkwithconfidence.com/
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